Friday, September 25, 2009

A Long Overdue Update

This week has been difficult for me to handle. It has been around 2 months since their regional court date and barely any news to sneeze at. I am not directly frustrated at our agency, but the agency they are partnered with.
After almost two months, we found out that whatever the father of the boys said to the judge, the judge thought that he may not be their father. Our agency said this has happened before with other cases that the judges don't believe that certain birth mothers were not old enough to have their children etc... and that they take out ads in local papers to find people to vouch for them and be witness in court that these parents are legit. So our case feels like it is at square one again. This also means that they are no longer at their transition home but were taken back to their region's orphanage again. We found that out today too. The fact that they are back at their orphanage again really breaks my heart. The one thing that has brought us peace during this waiting time is that they were at a good place getting good care and contact. I am worried that this will not help their attachment issues or add to the stress with being jerked back and forth during this time.
Right now we are trying to find out if a DNA test can be done to find out or solidify that he is their father and that we can move on with our case. It seems to be another huge waiting mountain and frankly I am feeling a little worn out.
Please continue to pray....I don't even know what to ask for anymore that I haven't already asked. Just pray.


Emily said...

Cara - so sorry to hear this. Must be so frustrating. Just so you know, if you are ever considering going over to Ethiopia to visit the boys, we would love to donate towards the purchase of the plane tickets. Let us know.

destinmimi said...

Oh Cara, my heart breaks for you Jason and the girls. I have been and will continue to pray for God to give you His peace throughout this huge trial in your life. Love you all, Martha

Jen Stutzman said...

Prayer is such a precious gift. I will continue to pray. We must not forget who we pray to!!! love you girl and I am so thankful for you!!!

Donna said...

You are right, a person doesn't know how to pray!! My heart goes out to you and Jason and Gracie and Allie. One doesn't even fathom to know what the next step needs to be. I can only think on one verse at this time, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everthing by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God." Philippians 4:6

Thinking about you all and will see you soon.